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I can’t find new web friends.
It’s hard finding people my age with similar interests and lifestyles. In real life, but even online too, among the blog/personal sites. I’ve been link-hopping lately (going to a site, and visiting all the sites they have linked, and so on) and been less than enthusiastic. I’m sure these people are nice enough and interesting in their own ways. But I am 25, single, no kids, out of school, and work full time. So I find it hard to relate to someone my age, they are usually not single, they have kids, go to school and/or work part time - if at all. Occasionally I’ll happen across someone who is not my age but shares some interests. People that I find interesting to read about. And sometimes they have nothing in common with me, but write about interesting things at least. If you can find a common ground, it’s easier to become friendly with someone. And I have very little in common with (seemingly) most bloggers out there now.
And what makes this extra aggravating is when I’ll go to a site, it has a nice design and appears to be well coded, read a little about the author and s/he seems to be pretty cool. Check out the blog - and it’s a goddamn PPP spam blog. Time wasted. Close tab, move along.
I can’t believe people a) have PPP-style blogs and/or b) link to PPP spammy blogs. Grr!
I like all the websites and people I have linked now, of course. I just thought it would be nice to get to know some new people through their websites. Many of my favorite people online are people who found me though, so maybe I don’t have to seek them out.
This entry was posted on Thursday, November 22nd, 2007 at 11:10 pm and is filed under Observations, Relationships. You can follow any responses to this entry through the RSS 2.0 feed. You can leave a response, or trackback from your own site.
November 22nd, 2007 at 11:54 pm
I feel you. It’s the same for me. In real life and online. I am not a mother/wife or girlfriend/coding whore, etcetera. I find it hard to find blogs that hold my interest. The whole online journal thing used to be so much fun. I don’t know what happened.
November 23rd, 2007 at 01:15 am
Oh it’s much easier for me to find bloggers to relate to–being a school student (and working part-time). However, don’t you ever think it’s just great to celebrate the differences? I have friends who’re completely different from me. We have significantly different styles of life as well and that’s the fun when we share our stuff when we communicate.
November 23rd, 2007 at 01:32 pm
It’s very rare that I’ll find somebody online who is my age and shares my interests because the interests I have aren’t typical for somebody my age. The one thing I love about blogging though is that I’ll find people who are a completely different age, have completely different interests and yet I’ll enjoy reading their blog anyway.
November 23rd, 2007 at 07:52 pm
I have the same problem with finding friends. Mostly because I’m 25-years old, I don’t party, I don’t drink, and I’m not really into clubs. I’m more of a loner, so most people aren’t interested in hanging out. I’ve kind of become an outcast, and the only people I have contact with are either online or older women who I work with.
Wow, I sound like a loser.
Just for the record, you don’t. ;)
November 23rd, 2007 at 08:36 pm
umm sweets what’s a PPP blog…
November 24th, 2007 at 07:12 pm
I just have to say I completely agree with this post! I often find myself link-hopping from blogs I already read (it’s how I just found your site) trying to find people I have things in common with. Sometimes, I’ll find someone who could be regarded as my complete opposite, but they still write about interesting things, so I’ll continue to read. But then I find the PPPs, and I just… don’t get it. Why?!
November 25th, 2007 at 02:41 am
I feel your pain. I have the same problem :(.
November 25th, 2007 at 03:07 pm
I know what you mean! I used to have so many online/website friends when I was in high school but we eventually grew apart and went in different directions. I’ll be 25 in February, married, no kids, 2 doggies, graduated with a degree in Web Development which I don’t use working full-time as an Accountant, and I don’t have time to change my layout everyday like I used to. :/
November 26th, 2007 at 05:47 pm
PPP = Pay-Per-Post? Am I right? I’m totally guessing on this one.
November 26th, 2007 at 11:13 pm
I have the same problem finding friend’s, but more so offline. I think it’s a trust issue for me, but I hope you find some.
November 27th, 2007 at 07:06 am
*jumps up and down* Me me me!
I’m 23 whine … cough I mean work full time as a computer programmer. I’m also thinking of ways to avoid going back to school (for the master’s degree)…
Well my site is coded… alright… and um it’s not visually appealing. Though I wouldn’t go as far as to state it’s visually unappealing. I don’t do pay per post… just the occasional e-drama which threatens to break my tracker :P
And I’m single and no kids… :P
But PPP and visually appealing? I’d like to see those sites. All those that I have seen look bad, are atrociously coded and advertise getting others’ sites reviewed for money.
November 27th, 2007 at 01:18 pm
I feel for you, I have the same problem sometimes and find myself just visiting the same blogs over and over (don’t get me wrong I love them, but variation is nice too).
November 27th, 2007 at 07:00 pm
What’s a PPP, and if it is what these people are saying pay per post, what’s so wrong with that? I mean if they’re still writing about something why does it matter if they’re getting paid? Some people[like me] feel like it’s something to do to make extra money although I haven’t even really signed up yet, just checked some of them out.
November 29th, 2007 at 12:52 am
I agree with every part of your blog. It’s hard to relate to people my age with blogs because they all either have a van full of children or choose to do PPP. I’ve lost friends by choosing not to link to PPP blogs, too. It’s quite annoying. :/
I hope you find interesting people to associate/link to in the future. I know how difficult that task is most of the time. Good luck! :)
November 30th, 2007 at 09:18 pm
I have a similar problem. I have been finding people lately that are developers because I’ve been diving head first into that (php/mysql) and have fallen in love with it.
I really do try to find new people and such but it doesn’t always work.
December 29th, 2007 at 06:01 am
I can relate totally. I’m not a Mommy so I can only take so much Mommy blog. I don’t mind PPP here and there but it’s really stormed the personal blog scene in the last few months or so. I’m not in school and I work (though only part time). I feel sort of in between where I was in high school and the teen community and the “adult” (read: Mommy) community. To that end, I recently created a Myspace group for 20 Somethings like Myself.